How to Get What You Want in Your Relationships

My course in Relaxation and Stress Release for the African Caribbean Community runs over two days at the City Lit in London, 28th November and 5th December.

The first half of the course covers how to get what we want in every area of our lives.

The second half focuses specifically on relationships and communication.

If you have ever wondered how to get your children, partners, work colleagues and significant others to do what you want, you need this course.

This is an excellent course for parents, singles and couples. I hope you will join us.

For more information and to book, see: Improving Relationships/Improving Communication.

See also: How to Get What You Want in Your Relationships.

Black Women and Breast Cancer

I recently attended an event about Black women and breast cancer. Here's what I learned:

Black women have a significantly lower risk of developing breast cancer than white women.

However, more Black women tend to die of breast cancer because they tend to develop a more aggressive form of the disease, which appears at an earlier age.

Click here to read about triple negative breast cancer.

This can lead to women’s concerns being dismissed by doctors who think they are “too young” to have to worry about breast cancer.

There is not enough information available about how this disease affects Black women. Doctors and healthcare professionals, including cancer charities, tend to be unaware of the issues Black women face.

Breast cancer can be caused by common household chemicals, including some Black hair care products, those which contain paraffin, parabens, mineral oil and N\pS./

Marina Raime of Betterdays Cancer Care

Maria Raime gave a very moving presentation based on her own personal experience.

When she first discovered a lump, Marina went to the GP twice and was turned away.

Young women often struggle to get a correct diagnosis.

When she was diagnosed, Marina needed information about breast-feeding and infertility.

She was treated at the Royal Marsden Hospital, which is classed as a Centre of Excellence in treating breast cancer. However, the second time she had the disease, she presented with a rash and was told it had been caused by laundry detergent, even though she was a cancer survivor.

After her double mastectomy, she was offered a white prosthesis.

She found that the literature on breast cancer was for older women and contained images of white women.

She did not receive any co-ordinated care as a pregnant woman with breast cancer.

The effects of the chemotherapy and radiotherapy she received have been long-term. No research has been done about the effects of these therapies on Black women.

After her charity, Better Days Cancer Care, set up their website, they received phonecalls from people asking “Why do you only have images of Black women on the site?” and “Why are there no images of white women?”.

The site was hacked by a hater, and all the research data was removed from the site.

Marina emphasised the importance of claiming ownership of the Black breast – our breasts are ours.

Betterdays are now working with Kings Healthcare Trust in a project led by Harold Freeman, an esteemed breast cancer expert from Harlem.

This event was held by London Black History Walks. They will repeat this event in July 2010.

On another note, many people have been cured of cancer and other serious diseases using Spiritual Response Therapy (SRT). For more info, see The Higher Self.

Books about Using Food to Prevent and Treat Cancer

Foods to Fight Cancer
The Cancer Survivor's Guide: Foods that Help You Fight Back
Nature’s Cancer-Fighting Foods

Cooking with Foods that Fight Cancer
What To Eat if You Have Cancer: Healing Foods that Boost Your Immune System

Foods that Fight Cancer: Preventing Cancer through Diet

Why We Need to Heal Part 2

Continuing the series on Why People of African Heritage Need to Heal and Transform Ourselves, Our Families, Our Communities and Our World.

Click here for Part 2 - The effects of miseducation on us and our children, how we are taught to hate ourselves and each other, and much more.

Click here if you missed Part 1.

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Total Health Day

I will be leading a meditation day for people of African heritage on Saturday 26th September. I hope you will join us. Click here for details and to book. Complete beginners are welcome - you don't need to be interested in Buddhism.

In addition, the Total Health Day at the London Buddhist Centre, Saturday 19th September, is open to everyone. We will have free meditation sessions, yoga, talks and more. This day is open to everyone.

To read more about meditation and empathy, see Getting Past the Hate.

Black Parents: A Radical Alternative

My new "Success Strategies" radio show will be dealing with different topics, including Nonviolent Communication.

I was at a community meeting last night, where the speaker was saying it is part of our African heritgage to hit children. I have heard this so many times. The reason why there are so many problems today is that children lack "discipline", meaning they are not hit or beaten.
I think using violence is part of every culture, it's not just an African tradition. Violence is used by every race and every cultural group. When we use violence, we increase the energy of violence in the universe. This is universal wisdom. Look around the world and we can see the consequences of that. And we don't have to look far - it's happening on the streets of London.

I am saying there is a better alternative. Check out my new ebook: What They Don't Want Us to Know.

I am talking about a radically different way of communicating with children - and everybody else. But although it is radically different, it is based on ancient traditions.

Click here to join us for the radio show. For more info, visit Improving Communication.
Sorry to be controversial, but I am starting as I mean to go on.